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The Fresh Start Effect

The Fresh Start Effect

Special occasions, such as a new year, often inspire people to set new goals or make positive changes. It gives people the chance to turn a new page and start all over again. This phenomenon is known as the Fresh Start Effect. A fresh start is a great possibility to...

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Cultivating Happiness

Cultivating Happiness

Our brains are not wired to keep us happy. Instead, it is designed to keep us safe by looking out for possible and potential threats. The thing it cared most about is our survival. For instance, if you were to walk too closely to the edge of a cliff to have a closer...

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Beat Shame Before Shame Beats You!

Beat Shame Before Shame Beats You!

Growing up in a traditional Asian home, I was taught to be polite, quiet, shy, humble, and deferential. Conformity to expectations is often emphasized, and emotional outbursts are discouraged. Failure to meet the family's expectations could mean bringing shame and...

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Less Haste, More Grace

Less Haste, More Grace

"Whoever believes will not be in haste." Isaiah 28:16 (ESV) "Gracefulness is not possible when life is frenetic, when we are harried, or suffer from overload, time crunch, and a vast multiplicity of commitments and pressures." - Jerome M. Segal, Graceful Simplicity A...

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Visualize to Actualize

Visualize to Actualize

Natan Sharansky, a computer specialist, was arrested by Soviet authorities in 1977 and accused of high treason. He stayed in jail until 1986. In those nine years in prison, Natan has a lot of experience with mental practices. While in solitary confinement, he played...

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The ABC Traits of Adaptive People

The ABC Traits of Adaptive People

“You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip, and it can crash. Become like water my...

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7 Tips to Stay Positive

7 Tips to Stay Positive

Maintaining positivity doesn't come automatically. You must be intentional if you're going to overcome the brain's tendency to focus on threats and negativity. Here are seven tips on how you can stay positive: 1. Be comfortable with yourself. Rejecting yourself is the...

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The ABCs of Parenting

The ABCs of Parenting

As parents, we are potentially the most influential people in our children's lives. In parenting, we need to be mindful of how we are shaping our children's minds and their future functions in society. So here is my ABC's of PARENTING: A- ACCEPT Accept your children...

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MESSING UP BIG TIME! So What Now?

MESSING UP BIG TIME! So What Now?

Messing up is inevitable because it comes with being human. What's more important is not to sulk in misery or shame. It is vital to be able to quickly convert a deadly mistake into a valuable lesson of personal development. Whether it is about your personal or...

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