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Welcome to the New Normal

Welcome to the New Normal

"If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything." - Unknown The world around us is changing faster than ever before. It is changing politically, socially, technologically, economically, and even spiritually. People's psyche has also advanced so much that...

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Don’t Take the Bait

Don’t Take the Bait

"They do not fear bad news; they confidently trust the LORD to care for them." - Psalm 112:7 The Bible did not promise that we will not HEAR any bad news. There will be bad news, but as we trust God to care for us, we will not FEAR them. Jesus, Himself, declared that...

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Finding Your True North

Finding Your True North

We will easily get overwhelmed and soon feel exhausted from trying to do too much when we do not focus on what fuels and guides us. However, we will discover peace, energy, and resilience once we have found our true calling in life. Using the hourglass as an...

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The Fresh Start Effect

The Fresh Start Effect

Special occasions, such as a new year, often inspire people to set new goals or make positive changes. It gives people the chance to turn a new page and start all over again. This phenomenon is known as the Fresh Start Effect. A fresh start is a great possibility to...

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Cultivating Happiness

Cultivating Happiness

Our brains are not wired to keep us happy. Instead, it is designed to keep us safe by looking out for possible and potential threats. The thing it cared most about is our survival. For instance, if you were to walk too closely to the edge of a cliff to have a closer...

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Beat Shame Before Shame Beats You!

Beat Shame Before Shame Beats You!

Growing up in a traditional Asian home, I was taught to be polite, quiet, shy, humble, and deferential. Conformity to expectations is often emphasized, and emotional outbursts are discouraged. Failure to meet the family's expectations could mean bringing shame and...

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Less Haste, More Grace

Less Haste, More Grace

"Whoever believes will not be in haste." Isaiah 28:16 (ESV) "Gracefulness is not possible when life is frenetic, when we are harried, or suffer from overload, time crunch, and a vast multiplicity of commitments and pressures." - Jerome M. Segal, Graceful Simplicity A...

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Visualize to Actualize

Visualize to Actualize

Natan Sharansky, a computer specialist, was arrested by Soviet authorities in 1977 and accused of high treason. He stayed in jail until 1986. In those nine years in prison, Natan has a lot of experience with mental practices. While in solitary confinement, he played...

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The ABC Traits of Adaptive People

The ABC Traits of Adaptive People

“You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip, and it can crash. Become like water my...

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