How Well is Your Communication?

Aug 10, 2021 | Dennis Heppner, Lifestyle

how well is your communication

How good are you at communication? Do people understand you when you speak? Do they know what you really mean, or are you vague, unclear, or even silent?

One of the greatest errors we make with communication is assumptions. We assume people understand us. We assume people know what we think or feel. But do they?

I’ve met many wonderful people over the years who struggle with feelings of hurt and anger because they assumed someone intentionally hurt them. They were wrong—it was an assumption.

Thoughts and good intentions do not necessarily communicate either. No one can read your mind except God. Your thoughts do not become obvious until they are expressed through words. Taking that one step further, your actions speak even louder than your words. When actions and words match, your influence grows exponentially.

If someone was watching your life, your worship, your love for God, and your involvement in ministry, what would they believe about you?

Your actions preach. Loudly! Your inaction preaches louder than your intentions. Do you follow through on your promises, do you keep commitments, do you show up on time?

When actions and words match, your influence grows exponentially.

Here’s how to improve your connections with others:

Assume nothing.

I’ve had my words quoted back to me—words I know I never said! My tone and my context communicated something other than what I meant.

Sometimes people hear what they want to hear. Other times we are not clear and we don’t connect.

Be as clear as you possibly can with your words. Talk less and when you talk, be more intentional. The fewer the words, the better the communication.

If you ever get an impression from someone’s words that troubles you, why not be mature and ask for clarification—just in case you misunderstood.

In order to connect with others, seek the truth, speak the truth, clarify the truth, explain the truth, and live the truth.

Communicate! Connect!

When you speak or write, are you clearly understood? Do you tend to use unnecessary or unclear words? Do you seek clarity from a person when their words trouble you? Do you live out what you profess?


Proverbs 4:7, The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.

Reading Plan: Leviticus 23 – Numbers 1


Heavenly Father, I commit to connecting with others in a way that pleases you. May I be committed to the truth—with the way I speak, listen, and live.


Communicate! Connect! This week, seek what is true, speak what is true, clarify to get what is true, and explain what is true. Live the truth!

#Communicate #Testimony #Connection

Dennis Heppner grew up in Canada and was called to ministry as a young boy. Dennis and his wife Denie, who was also called to missions as a child, pastored 4 churches in Canada, but in 1987 the door opened to come to the Philippines as missionaries. They brought their 4 eldest children with them and the kids grew up here. In 2006 they adopted Emma Rose, a special Filipino treasure and a gift from God to their family.

Dennis has been a missionary evangelist in Asia for 25 years. He was the director of LIFESCHOOLS of ministry and pastored 3 churches in the early years of his ministry based in the Philippines. He is currently the founder and President of Developing Effective Leaders (DEL), superintendent of Church of God West Asia, and the founding and lead Pastor of the vibrant, growing Church of God Makati.

Dennis and Denie and their whole family, including Josh and Melody who live in Canada, are committed to missions, leadership, and the call of Christ.

Read more of Pastor Dennis’s articles HERE!

Extended Bio HERE.

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