We all want to be honored and respected. Sino ba naman ang ayaw, diba?Nakakadurog naman ng puso if people outside our home honors and respects you, pero ang sarili mong asawa ay walang respeto sa’yo.
But before we desire for our spouse to honor and respect us, sa atin dapat muna ito magsimula. Now the question is how?
FOR WOMEN: How can we honor and respect our husbands?
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. — Ephesians 5:22
You heard it right. If you really want for your man to feel that he is honored and respected by you, you need to gladly and wholeheartedly submit to his leadership. Allow him to take the lead. Huwag mo siyang pangungunahan. Submission is not an option, it is a must. That’s how God designed marriage. Kung hindi magsu-submit ang asawang babae, dito magsisimula ang samo’t saring conflicts that will later on ruin the marriage.
Marahil nagtatanong ka, “E paano naman Chinkee kung sablay-sablay ang leadership ng husband ko? Mag-susubmit pa rin ba ako?” The answer is YES. Kung magkamali man siya sa ibang mga decision niya, He is accountable to God. Basta your role as a wife is to submit to him. Allow him to learn from his mistakes. Huwag kontrabida. Suportahan mo lang siya. As long as hindi masama ang ginagawa nya, support him.
ALLOW GOD TO WORK IN YOUR HUSBAND
FOR MEN: How can we honor and respect our wives?
“In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.” — 1 Peter 3:7
BE CONSIDERATE TO THEM
Ang ating mga asawa ay ating katuwang at hindi katulong. Hindi porke’t sunod sila ng sunod sa atin ay sasamantalahin natin ito at magte-take advantage tayo. May mga katangian rin ang asawa nating mga babae that we need to be considerate of. They are emotional, pabago-bago ng isip minsan, mahilig mag-shopping, makwento at kung ano-ano pa. We need to be considerate and understand that they have different wiring. As we treat them with consideration and understanding, we are not just honoring and respecting them but we are also meeting their needs. In return, they will feel secure and loved.
TREAT YOUR WIFE AS IF SHE IS THE MOST VALUABLE AND IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE.
These are two important things that we should take heart as we strive to honor and respect our spouses. As we commit ourselves to honor and respect our spouses, we can be sure that our marriage will work. Why? Because that’s how GOD meant it to be.
THINK. REFLECT. APPLY
Are you honoring your spouse? Do you have issues when it comes to submitting to your husband? Are you considerate with your wife?